Standards for staff moral integrity
- Thou shalt not go to lunch alone with the opposite sex.*
- Thou shalt not have the opposite sex pick you up or drive you places when it is just the two of you.*
- Thou shalt not kiss any attender of the opposite sex or show affection that could be questioned.*
- Thou shalt not visit the opposite sex alone at home.
- Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex alone at the office, and thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex more than once without that person’s mate. Refer them.
- Thou shalt not discuss detailed sexual problems with the opposite sex in counseling. Refer them.
- Thou shalt not discuss your marriage problems with an attender of the opposite sex.
- Thou shalt be careful in answering emails, instant messages, chatrooms, cards, or letters from the opposite sex.
- Thou shalt make your secretary your protective ally.
- Thou shalt pray for the integrity of other staff members.
* The first three do not apply to unmarried staff
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posted by Matt Friedeman @ 3:09 PM
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Sounds more than reasonable to me!!!
Sadly you almost have to say this for men as well (Haggard incident)! I know however that sexual immorality is more prevalent in man to woman sexuality. It is a sad, sad thing.
I'd like to add something...Thou shalt show affection toward thy wife in public, especially in front of other church members.
Thou shalt speak affectionately about thy wife in public as well.
I have seen a pastor who started with these ideals and let them slip gradually.
At first it was an emergency ride home for a female teen in the youth group which is completely understandable.
Then it turned into things like giving her rides home more often, phone calls, im exchanges, holding hands in public, then parking and talking the car for a couple hours. Eventually, he began to even make some sexual comments.
I as the assistant pastor witnessed all of this and his supervisor was told of the situation. Unfortunatly, the pastor lied about the situation and said he was never alone with the girl which his supervisor believed. I left the position shortly thereafter not knowing what else I could do. (The supervisor told me to stop talking about the situation or else).
Pastors - PLEASE obey these rules. I can't describe the pain I have felt in my situation seeing a pastor go from a pretty good guy to what he became.
I question the idea that true moral integrity comes from avoiding situations that may bring temptation.
To me advocating these things is like an admission that, presented with these situations, you may give in to temptation.
True moral integrity is to be faced with the temptation to do something immoral and not give into it.
Every last rule listed here, save for one, is about avoiding the situation entirely. Only the 3rd is actually about not giving into temptation when it is already there.
Shame on all of you for, in catering to your own weakness, you have suggested others deny their opportunity to test the strength of their own moral convictions and in doing so to prove themselves worthy in the eyes of the Lord.
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